Reignite
Your Love
How to improve your intimate relationship in 3 steps
Understand the emotional and sexual cycle you’re caught in, how to step out of it, and how to bring back the attraction between you.
One of you feels unwanted. The other feels pressured. You’re both lonely.
If you’ve been together a long time, there’s a good chance you’re caught in a cycle you were never taught about. It happens when you try to talk, and it happens in the bedroom. This workshop shows you what it is.
Maybe you’re good together, but you don’t feel close.
You run a home well. You’re kind to each other, mostly. But somewhere along the way you became a very good team and stopped being lovers. The conversations are about logistics, the touch is a peck on the way out the door, and sex has slipped down the list.
You still love each other, and you miss feeling close.
Or maybe you keep having the same fight.
One of you reaches, the other pulls away. One wants to talk it through, the other needs a minute. The more one pushes, the further the other goes, and you both end up feeling alone and far apart.
Neither of you is to blame. You’re both caught in the same cycle, and you can learn to step out of it.
Come and learn what’s happening between you, and what you can do about it.
Book your placeWhat you’ll learn
What the emotional cycle is
One of you reaches, the other retreats. The more one reaches, the more the other retreats. You’ll see how it starts, why it keeps going, and which part each of you plays.
What the sexual cycle is
It’s the same cycle in the bedroom. One of you reaches for sex, the other feels pressure and pulls away. You’ll learn why this happens and why nobody is the bad guy.
How the two cycles feed each other
When you feel emotionally disconnected, sex feels less appealing. When sex has gone, it’s harder to feel close. You’ll understand how one affects the other in your relationship.
Tools to step out of the cycle
How to name the cycle when it starts, say what’s underneath, and ask for space or reassurance in a way your partner can hear.
What polarity is
Attraction comes from the differences between you. When you become too similar, passion fades. You’ll learn what polarity is and how to bring it back.
You’ll leave with
- a clear picture of your own cycle, emotional and sexual
- an understanding of what’s going on for your partner
- simple tools to try at home
- answers to your questions about how to bring intimacy back
- if you come solo, how to make your next relationship better
How the workshop works
This is a teaching workshop, not group therapy. Tarisha and Mark teach three steps.
- The emotional cycle: why you keep having the same fight, and how to step out of it.
- The sexual cycle: why one of you reaches and the other pulls away, and how to step out of it.
- Polarity: how to bring back the attraction between you.
You can ask your questions about how to bring the intimacy back and what you need to do.
Often one of you is keener to come than the other. That’s normal. You don’t both need to feel excited, only willing to come.
For the partner who isn’t sure: you’ll sit, listen and learn.
Book your place
Come together, or come on your own
It doesn’t matter if you come alone or as a couple. If you come on your own, you can go home and explain the cycle to your partner. Then you can decide together what to do next.
And if you’re not in a relationship right now, you’ll know how to make your next relationship better.
Book your place“She helped us to realise the negative patterns that we were both doing and practising within our relationship. She gave us the tools to make better choices before heading to that ‘stuck’ state. We are able to read and communicate so much better.”A couple, married four years, who worked with Tarisha for over a year
Your guides
Tarisha is a relationship and sex therapist with 15 years of experience in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and sex therapy. She integrates Western psychotherapy with Eastern wisdom from sacred sexuality and tantra.
Tarisha and Mark have both trained with David Deida, one of the world’s most respected teachers on intimacy and polarity.
The details
The Button Factory, 2 Abbey Street, Auckland Central · Monday 16 November and Monday 30 November, 6–9pm · 3 hours
Come together as a couple, or come on your own.
Reignite Your Love
A 3-hour in-person workshop.
I want to make this work accessible to everyone.
- Three hours of teaching with Tarisha and Mark
- The emotional cycle and the sexual cycle explained
- Tools to step out of the cycle
- Polarity: how to bring attraction back
- Time for your questions
Questions people ask
Do we have to share in front of the group?
No. You can ask a question if you want to, and you don’t have to say anything.
Are there any sexual practices in the room?
No. We talk about desire and how the sexual cycle works. Nothing explicit happens in the room.
Can I come on my own?
Yes, solo is okay. A single ticket is $19. You can go home and explain the cycle to your partner, or use what you learn to make your next relationship better.
Is this right for us?
It’s for people in a long-term relationship who care about each other and want to feel closer. If you’re in a crisis or in constant conflict, book a free call first and we’ll talk about what would help you most.
What if my partner isn’t sure about coming?
That’s very common. One of you is usually keener than the other. Your partner doesn’t need to feel excited, only willing to come, sit and listen. They won’t be asked to speak. You can also come on your own first, or book a free call and we’ll answer any questions the two of you have.
Do we have to be in crisis to come?
No. Many couples come because they’re good together and want to feel closer. Others come because they keep having the same fight. You don’t need to be in crisis, and you don’t need to pretend everything is fine.
What if things are tense between us right now?
That’s common, and it’s a good reason to come. You’ll see the cycle that’s creating the tension, and why neither of you is to blame.
Understand what’s happening between you
One evening. Come alone or together.
Book your placeNot sure yet? Book a free call.
Or email tarisha@deeplyinloveagain.com