Private Retreat for Two
Two or three days with Tarisha, just the two of you, in Auckland, to understand the pattern you’re stuck in and learn how to want each other again.
Apply to talkWhether you’re drifting apart or in crisis, weekly therapy can be too slow
Maybe you’ve been drifting for years. Date nights, books, the occasional therapy session, and you keep landing back in the same place. Some weeks feel okay, some weeks you barely speak. Sex is rare or it’s been a long time. Or maybe it’s more urgent than that. You’re in crisis. One of you has one foot out the door. The fights are harsher than they were a year ago. Weekly therapy feels too slow to save what you’ve built together.
Two or three days, just the two of you, in Auckland. You arrive stuck in the same pattern. You leave understanding it, with tools to step out of it together and a feel for what it takes to want each other again. It’s concentrated, so you don’t lose more time waiting between weekly sessions.
You do 12 to 18 hours of therapy with Tarisha in two or three days. It’s the equivalent of about six months of private therapy.
A lot will change when you spend two or three days focusing only on your relationship. You’ll understand what’s been getting in the way between the two of you. You’ll resolve the arguments and the sense of disconnection, and you’ll learn how to find each other again. It’s a really powerful way to improve your relationship. She uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), sex therapy, Hakomi somatic psychotherapy, breathwork and tantric work, and plans the days around your relationship.
You’ll know it’s time to do this if
You’re in crisis. One of you has one foot out the door, and weekly therapy is moving too slowly to catch up.
You’ve been together five years or more, and you feel more like flatmates than lovers.
You keep landing in the same fight, and you can’t find your way out of it.
Sex has become rare, mechanical, or a source of conflict between you.
You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, and nothing has actually changed the dynamic at home.
You’re committed to each other. You’re ready to do something concentrated about it, before more time goes by.
Two or three days planned around your relationship
Part one: Reconnecting hearts, rediscovering desire
Understand and shift your emotional cycle. From arguments and distance to love and connection. EFT-led work to map the pattern you keep landing in, partnered breath and body practice, and your first open conversation about sex. By the end of the day, you both know what’s really going on underneath the fight.
Part two: Deepening connection, building your new chapter
Understand and shift your sexual cycle. From sex as a chore to passionate lovemaking. New emotional and sexual moves, a written repair script for the next argument, sexual communication practices, and your 21-day plan to keep what you’ve built alive once you go home.
Change that lasts after you go home
Focused work is only worth it if it lasts. Here’s what you walk out with.
A clear map of your cycle
You’ll finally see, together, the pattern you’ve been stuck in for years. You’ll see the trigger, what each of you does next, and the silence that follows. Once you see it, you can step out of it.
Tools that work in the moment
Practical things you can do the next time a fight starts, so you don’t end up in the same place again three weeks from now.
A shared language for what’s underneath
Words for what’s really going on, so you can say more than the complaint. You’ll finally say what you’ve both been trying to say for years.
A feel for how desire comes back
You’ll experience in your body what it feels like when there’s desire and polarity between you again. Once you’ve felt it, you can find your way back to it.
Structures for keeping it alive at home
Practical agreements, rituals and conversations that help the changes last, so you don’t slide back into old habits a few days later.
One follow-up online session
Within 60 days, to check in, build on what has changed and adjust what isn’t working yet.
Castaways Resort. Auckland’s west coast
An hour from Auckland city, on a black-sand beach with the Tasman Sea. Private chalets above the dunes. Studio, deluxe and villa accommodation.
You work with Tarisha, just the two of you
Tarisha is a relationship and sex therapist with 15 years of clinical practice. She holds a Master’s in Counselling and is a member of the New Zealand Association of Counsellors (NZAC). Her training includes Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples (Levels 1 and 2), Hakomi somatic psychotherapy, Gottman method, biodynamic breathwork facilitation, somatic trauma work, and sex therapy.
Intensives are where she works with one couple at a time. Just her, you, and your relationship.
It’s private and focused. There’s no group and no other couples in the room, only two or three full days of work on your relationship.
Private Retreat for Two
- Two or three full days of private work with Tarisha (12 to 18 hours)
- Accommodation at Castaways Resort, Auckland west coast
- Pre-work questionnaire and intake call
- Custom intensive curriculum based on your relationship
- Lunch and tea provided each day
- One follow-up online session within 60 days
Two or three days, just the two of you, to change things
Start with a free Zoom call with Tarisha to find out what will support the two of you best. You don’t need to be in crisis to come, and you don’t need to pretend everything is fine.
Apply to talk