Learn how to understand each other better and become lovers again
Trauma-informed EFT couples therapy and sex therapy in Auckland and online worldwide.
Book a free discovery callA complimentary Zoom session with lots of support.
It really is possible to fall deeply in love again with your partner
… even if you’ve been disconnected for years.
I help couples to stop having that same argument, again and again, understand each other better, and enjoy a truly fulfilling relationship using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) intertwined with sex therapy and tantric practices.
You can love each other and still feel lonely. You can share a life and still feel like flatmates. You can want intimacy and still tense up when it’s “supposed to happen.”
If you’re stuck in the same argument, shutdown, or cold distance, you’re not broken. You’re caught in a relationship pattern. And patterns can change.
This is for you if…
- You’re having the same fight again and again and nothing gets resolved.
- One of you reaches out and the other shuts down, and it hurts both of you.
- You feel misunderstood, unappreciated, or emotionally alone in the relationship.
- Trust has been damaged and you don’t know how to come back from it.
- Sex has become rare, pressured, awkward, painful, or emotionally disconnected.
- You want to feel close, loved and desired and have no idea how to get there.
I use EFT therapy (Emotionally Focused Therapy) to find the real problem underneath the conflict.
And I integrate sex therapy and tantric practices in a grounded, consent-led way. So intimacy isn’t another place you feel judged, pressured, or alone. So your body can feel safe enough to want.
This is trauma-informed therapy. We go at a pace your nervous system can actually handle. I won’t push communication tips on you while your body is saying no.
A complimentary “Get the Love You Desire” Discovery Session
I’d love to help you get started. In this session we’ll work together to create a crystal-clear vision for the kind of relationship you’d like to have with your partner. You’ll uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success with creating the love life you dream about. And you’ll understand what Emotionally Focused Therapy involves and if it’s right for you and your partner.
You will come out of this session with:
If your partner doesn’t want to join, book the session on your own. We’ll start with you.
You don’t have to leave your house for the session. We will talk on Zoom, so it doesn’t matter where you are in the world!
Book a free discovery callHere’s what my clients say
“The intimacy between us now is so much deeper.”
“My relationship with my husband was almost destroyed. With Tarisha’s help I understand my husband so much better now and I’m so much more connected to myself. The intimacy between us now is so much deeper, whole new level. Thank you! Thank you for your love and care, Tarisha.”
“We have come out the other side and we are truly happy.”
“When I reached out to Tarisha, after 4 years of marriage my husband and I were in a very disconnected place and nothing seemed to change that.
When working with Tarisha she helped us to realise the negative patterns that we were both doing and practising within our relationship. She helped us to gain realisation and gave us the tools to make better choices before heading to that ‘stuck’ state. We have come out the other side and we are truly happy and are able to read and communicate so much better, both feeling so much more fulfilled.
We are so grateful for her patience, knowledge and expertise and I would highly recommend her to add value to anyone’s relationship or marriage no matter how young or old it is.”
“I feel like I was given a new life.”
“I can’t believe my relationship with my husband changed so much! We are again in love as 14 years ago, but now this feels so much deeper. Wow! Just in one weekend! Where were you before, Tarisha? I feel like I was given a new life.”
Barbara D, Auckland, New Zealand
“I’ve been able to reconnect far more deeply with my husband.”
“I’ve felt isolated and unable to cope and overwhelmed by my son’s energy. It’s through Tarisha’s course that I’ve been able to reconnect far more deeply with my husband and ask for his support. This time he’s heard.”
Sam Rock Cooper, Bristol, UK
“The change in my marriage is most pleasurable.”
“Before working with Tarisha I felt like I was hopelessly stuck in myself as being sexless, lacking femininity, not much energy or interest to make love, and a never ending to do list. I feel more joy over being me, and an openness and connection to the sensual and sexual me in every day life. The change in my marriage is most pleasurable.”
Madelene, Sweden
How I rekindled intimacy after months of disconnect
In our work together I will…
Whether you’ve been feeling dissatisfied in your relationship for years, have just experienced a breakdown in trust or are starting a new relationship, it all comes down to (re)creating a solid emotional connection with your partner that can withstand life’s ups and downs.
- guide you to identify the painful communication cycle you and your partner inadvertently engage in
- show you how to change your negative cycle into a positive one that creates more connection and understanding
- help you share with your partner what you need in a way that they can hear and respond to positively
- help you find a way to bring a deep emotional connection with your partner
- show you how to update your communication so you can understand each other better
- help you create an exciting and satisfying sex life
- show you how to resolve long-standing disagreements so you’re not constantly arguing about the same issues
- encourage you to nurture your relationship so that your relationship nurtures you
Of course, I can’t promise you that your relationship will work out. Sometimes we are just not meant to be together and things don’t work out no matter what we do. But I can promise that you will gain clarity, understand each other better, and more importantly you will understand how you work and what you contribute to the difficulties, so you don’t have to repeat painful relational dynamics.
Meet Tarisha
I’m a relationship and sex therapist with 15 years of experience.
Certified Feminine Power Coach
My qualifications:
- Master’s in Counselling from Massey University
- Graduate Diploma in Psychotherapy from the Auckland University of Technology
- Graduate of Hakomi Somatic Psychotherapy 2-year professional training
- Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples (EFT) levels 1 & 2 professional trainings
- Emotionally Focused Therapy for Individuals (EFIT) levels 1 & 2
- Somatic Approaches to Trauma professional training
- Certified BioDynamic Breathwork practitioner
- Certified woman-centered coach
- Gottman Method training
- Member of the New Zealand Association of Counsellors (NZAC)
- Former Associate Chartered Accountant
I work online and in person at Three Lamps Therapy, 2 Jervois Road, Ponsonby, Auckland. I also lead couple’s intensives and couples and women’s retreats.
I have a particular interest in working with couples who want more sexual fulfilment, experience sexual difficulties and/or have a history of unwanted sexual experiences. I’m trained in supporting clients with sexual trauma as well as using tantric arts to bring more joy into a couple’s sex life.
I offer Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an evidence-based approach with excellent follow-up results. Studies show that couples keep making progress after therapy ends. In brief, EFT works very well, results last, and it works across different populations and problems (see the EFT research).
I’d love to hear from you,
Tarisha
tarisha@deeplyinloveagain.com
EFT therapy for couples in Auckland and online worldwide.
Sex therapy for couples and women in Auckland and worldwide online.
Questions you might have
What if my partner doesn’t want to come?
Book the discovery session on your own. Many people start this way. When you understand your part of the pattern and change how you respond, the relationship starts to change too. Your partner is welcome to join later.
We’ve tried counselling before and it didn’t help. Why would this be different?
A lot of counselling focuses on communication skills. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to find the pattern underneath your arguments, and I include sex therapy, so intimacy is part of our work from the start.
Do we have to talk about sex?
Only when you’re ready. We go at a pace that feels safe for both of you. Nothing is forced, and you choose what you share.
Do you work online?
Yes. I work on Zoom with couples all over the world, and in person in my office in Ponsonby, Auckland.
What happens after the discovery session?
After we talk, we’ll see what the best way forward is for you. It could be weekly therapy, a couple’s intensive, a retreat, or the Sexually Empowered Radiant Woman course, which is specifically for women who want to reclaim their desire and feel confident and connected to their body.
I’d love to help you get started
Start with a complimentary “Get the Love You Desire” Discovery Session.
Book a free discovery call